BELIEF OF THE FEARLESS…THE MORNING TALK

Good Morning Dearest Deegatalkers,

The moment you start to realise things around you is when it all begins. It starts when you start questioning things around you, and reasoning them.

They might try to force it at an early age, but they can never force you into it. They will judge you for not applying it the way they want you to, and will harass you for not following the rules. But it has no rules, the only rule you should follow is your heart.

Belief it is.

It’s a gut feeling, that pushes you to do what must be done. It affects your actions, behaviour and character.

This takes me to a conversation I had yesterday with a couple of friends yesterday, when we mentioned the series “El Khawaga Abdelkader” and how he shifted into a certain religion with passion and love. Two days ago, my friend was discussing the Fashion Trend of the Sibha… And how everyone is wearing one for the sake of fashion. I thought at this point, “What’s the problem with holding a spiritual element or even wearing it throughout?” I mean we all have this sort of spirituality inside us, regardless of how we want to name it.

Society, in a way or another tries constantly to force a certain form of spirituality, let it be prayers by force, religious properties that one should go to a certain pattern of visible religious behaviours or even certain religious outfits.

While religion, beliefs and spirituality are considered to be very personal, many do not see it that way. If you’re not following us, you’re bad, if you’re not doing that, you’re bad, if you don’t believe the way we do, you’re bad and will be sentenced.

Who are we to say what is good and what isn’t? Who are we to force something that cannot be materialised or touched? Who are we to contain and limit feelings and emotions?

Surprisingly, if any strictly religious people are reading this… They would think I’m simply saying nonsense, since there are notions, studies and practices about this topic. But let’s think about it that way

Belief, comes with trust, total trust, love and a sense of confidence. I’m confident with what I believe in, I’m confident with whom I believe in and I have faith.

Belief doesn’t come in with fear, belief comes with love.

If you don’t, then you must reevaluate your beliefs, regardless of what you believe in.

Could be just an idea, a person, or an element.

Find something worth believing in, find something worth living for, pay close attention to the signs and let your heart lead you.

If you believe, then you trust, then you love.

Learn to fall in love

Have a great day,

*Suggested readings: 40 Rules of Love, Elif Şafak

Watch: El Khawaga Abdulkader Series by Yehia el Fakharany

Read…#ThemorningTalk

Goood morning Deegatalkers,

Hope you had a great weekend.

Throughout the weekend I had this thought that couldn’t leave me :

Since when did relationships became a “Seen” & “Read” sign?

Since when did we judge the others person’s interest by whether he “Read” the message and took time to reply…or never replied at all

Since when did the “Online” button while the other person isn’t answering back means cheating, ignoring or isn’t interested.

And since when did some stupid symbols created by web developers affect our lives to that extent.

The more the digital world tried to facilitate our lives…the more it destroys our interpersonal relationships. What about life 50 years ago?… When Abdelhalim sent Lobna Abdelaziz a love letter …Walked down her balcony just so she might see him … When he sent her the love letter inside a book, or even a laundry bag.

They fought, waited…waited and waited…yet fell in love and had some of the best love stories in history.

Their love story definitely did not include

“Your last status”

“Your display picture” or

“ You were online and didn’t answer my txt”

“Who’s that girl and why is she texting you?”  Yet they fell in love.

They weren’t frustrated waiting day and night for that txt

They didn’t stalk Instagram, Facebook and Twitter

They didn’t stalk the other person’s friends and their social media activity to find a picture or a status that would give any hint

They didn’t write “مافيش حد بيتجرح اوي غير لما بيحب اوي ” Yet they fell in love

They learnt to give everything it’s time…not to rush things, wait and fall in love passionately

They fell in love, without “Read”ing or being “Seen” So please…don’t let a tick✔✔ affect your relationships

Have a great day

IT ALL BEGAN IN SUMMER…#THEMORNINGTALK

Good morning Dearest Deegatalkers,

It’s the weekend …Yaay! I guess we’re now all back to reality, no more Sa7el, no more Summer…well that sounds boring

The word summer itself brings so much excitement to my ears … Summer means fun, excitement, adventures and endless stories.

But to me, my admiration for the summer goes way back to my childhood, it takes me back to my first crush, our walks, talks and endless memories.

Each summer came with a unique story that I’ve lived throughout the whole year, and waited for another year to begin a new story.

In Summer, I fell in love.In Summer we belonged to one another while the sea witnessed every detail of our story. He was our companion. We first met by the sea, we clicked by the sea, and promised to belong to one another forever by the sea. He fuelled our story forward, and healed all our wounds. He was there. The sea was there, until he carried us safely to the shore.

Some of my stories continued for sometime, and others ended with the first rainfall.

But still, stories that started by the sea remain the remarkable ones.

What about you? What’s your summer story?

Experience…The Morning Talk

So..its Thursday

And I have no idea for today’s morning post..But my team suggested the word “Experience”

So..”Experience” it is.

Ever since I’ve started college, and even earlier since school, I’ve been working day and night, joining clubs and extra curricular activities just to build “Experience”

Whenever I had any interview, and been asked

-Why do you want to join us?

– To build my experience and enhance my skills.

And by the end of college, I’ve seen many who wanted to join clubs, do extra work to sum it up in a Title and place on their CVs.

They told me

“Ana 3ayez a3abby el CV”

Some never really worked for it…But they were satisfied by a Title and a huge amount of places they’ve been to and event’s they’ve participated in.

For my first job, I was asked, why should we hire you?

And off course my answer was …”I have experience”

But never really had actual professional experience…and to my surprise, the corporate and professional entities rarely do they appreciate “Experience”

They might see you as a proactive person, someone who likes to work without being asked for it, someone who’s on the go…knows how to work in teams and lead others…but the question goes here

What kind of experience are we developing? In other words, is the Title or The character?

Experience definitely helps you see so many areas you’ve never been through, but it helps you also build yourself through it.

Experience is not only about knowing how to do the job, it’s about learning how to live it.

It’s about knowing what do choose

Whom to choose

What needs to be done…and what doesn’t

What’s a priority, and what isn’t

It’s about developing yourself through each stage.

Knowing who you are, what do you want now…and what can wait for later

It’s about setting your dreams, goals, mission and vision

It’s about admitting your flaws, and knowing your strengths

It’s about knowing how to deal with others, and how to lead them when necessary

And enhancing your character

That’s what experience is all about. It has nothing to do with Titles or َQuantity, and that’s what corporate professionals try to see in you..but off course you need to have more “Experience” before hand

The more you move through your life…the more you build up you learn the more you build up your experience.

Have a great weekend,

Enjoy it..and wait for my upcoming Talk tomorrow.

Books for life…The Morning Talk

Morning Morning Deegalkers,

Last talk, I talked about love, and told you also never to judge a book by it’s cover, this morning I’m talking about the book itself.

Yesterday, my colleagues at work were discussing with me how do I get this ability to read that much and finish a book in a day or two, and I went like and so what?

I remember my love for owning books in my childhood but never actually reading any, it was a tough duty when I had to. It brought pleasure choosing books with weird titles and great designs. But I’ve never read any.

When I used to read, I read the tiniest books ever, with minimum number of pages. Until the day where my eyes fell on Paulo Coehlo’s masterpiece “Zahir”, It was a book I could never read, but took this challenge one summer on a boat trip to finish it all, and it happened. Since the very first moment I held the book, I kept on reading non stop and couldn’t leave it a second, until I’ve finished it in 3 days.

That was it…that was the start, reading novels, self development and fictional books. I’ve never actually go the idea for people who don’t read. To me reading is sexy, it’s attractive, no matter what you read, whether politics or fiction or even romance, it is sexy. What’s even sexier is having discussions about what you’ve read and getting into a conversation about it. Conversation, Reading and Books…what’s only missing here is a good cup of coffee and some music.

Ok, so books books books. Imagine yourself getting into the lives of so many people when all what you need to do is just open up. It’s exactly like what I was talking about yesterday, judging it by it’s cover won’t take you anywhere. Unless you get deep into it, go through every word, dot and sentence. It’s not about how much you do read in an hour, day or even year…it’s about how each word made you feel and how it might have changed you.

So I’ll list down a bunch of my favourite books

1. Zahir, Paulo Coelho

2. Aleph, Paulo Coelho

3. كتاب مالوش اسم، احمد العسيلي

4. الكتاب التاني، احمد العسيلي

5. اسرار صغيرة، ريتا خوري

6. هيبتا، محمد الصادق

7. نور عبدالمجيد، رغم الفراق

8. Tuesdays with Morie, Mitch Albom

9. تحيا جمهورية قلبي، لينا نابلسي

10. المانيفستو، مصطفى ابراهيم

11. Girls of Riadh, Rajaa Alsanea

The number of my favourite book is endless, but if you want to check out my Goodreads account please do.

https://www.goodreads.com/user/show/9466681-khadiga

And to sum this up..

“There is no friend as loyal as a book.” ― Ernest Hemingway

Now you know what reading is all about?

What are your favourite books?

When in love…The morning Talk

Morning Morning Deegatalkers,

Well I’m glad you read yesterday’s talk and liked it. Now you’re encouraging me even more to write.

Yesterday I read a post about falling in love, and it said something along the lines of

“Don’t ever judge someone, by who they fall in love with, falling in love isn’t a choice and doesn’t need any permission to reach you, it just happens”

In a world like the one we’re living, we always judge the book by its cover … even without reading the headline or checking the synopsis, we usually check the design, the colors and whether it’s big or small, but we rarely go through it.

… And love has to be deeply felt … but society never approves. Society wants you to love, provided you’re following its manifesto. Wants to to be loved, the way it wants to see you being loved. Wants you to feel the way it wants you to feel … according to it’s feel chart. And in action, please make sure to follow the guide. But the truth is, actual love, has no Manifestos, Rules, Charts, Guides or even Video tutorials … Love’s only rule is to open up yourself to it.

When in love, Allow yourself to feel,

See things the way you do not how others see it 

Stop over thinking 

No expectation bar is the actual bar 

When in love,

Society is your worst enemy

 Just don’t allow it to get through you 

When in love act… Don’t react 

When in love be happy…Please 

“When in love…“

It’s one of the deepest, most pure feelings ever that we try to suppress and mock … all the time. We ask why…while love knows no Whys or Hows. We try to rationalize … while love has no rationale. We try to materialise … while true love can’t be materialised.

When in love … just allow yourself to fall in heaven … even for some time … you need this.

The Morning Talk

“Make new friends but keep the old, for one is silver the other is gold”

That’s my first day in being 24! Feels quite awkward, I’m not young yet not old

Bar2os 3al selem ya3ni

When I was young, the elders used to tell me to appreciate school friends, they are the ones that last. And when I used to look at my friends I thought, could they be my lifetime friends? Will I make new ones? Would we remain the same?

And growing up as an extremely shy girl, I’ve always feared approaching new people or making new friends, and always stayed in my comfort zone. It was a challenge … to go and say Hi to anyone.

I’ve always feared rejection, mockery, difference and change

In class my teachers gave me the rabbit as my animal, very shy very quiet.

Bit by bit, I started working on building up myself for my career, until it turned me into the person I am today.

I turned out from being that Shy Rabbit, into Deega…Deegatalk

Throughout the way, the number of people I’ve met and got in touch with is humongous, however the number of real humans and souls, goes down by far.

People are everywhere
Friendships are rare
Real great souls are extinct

It’s not about how old or new is your relationship, what matters is whether it’s true and sincere. What matters is whether you both appreciate and add to this relationship.

What matter is the strength of your relationship At the end of the day, make precious friendships and appreciate them. Have a great day

Birthday Girl

Good morning dearest readers,

Yepp…I’m the birthday girl … Today I just turned 24. Guess now I’m not the average teenager, you used to know before, but common … I didn’t change … I’ve just evolved over time.

Many of you sent me birthday wishes, telling me the exact articles they knew me from …some knew me from

“Happy Birthday Me” Others from “Flirtationship” and Others from “Let’s get Physical”

Whichever article touched you, doesn’t matter, what really matters is that my words had an impact on your lives … even if it’s a small one … what matter is my words managed to change certain things in your life in a way or another, and surprisingly, the most personal talks are the ones that touched you the most

Now when I look at your words, I feel how the hell did I stop writing any talks?

How the hell did you let me stop writing?

Every year, I used to write a talk about my Birthday,

I wrote -Happy Birthday Me -From Deega with love

Every year, I used to write hoping for something to happen … or regretting something that didn’t … other times I used to send indirect subliminal messages to certain people through my talks.

My talks were inspiring, motivating, eye opening, and other times, alarming and threatening … but as my favourite quote always says,

“Never Screw up with an artist, you will always end up in her next song”

So do you want to be on my good side wala?

Now as I turn 24, I have a couple of personal life advices to share with you

1. Know your self value, and never settle for less than what you should deserve

2. If you love something so much, don’t over hold onto it, if it’s meant to be, it will be yours if not, it’s just not worth the effort you put into it

3. Those who really care about you will find a way to be in your life, without you being so pushy, needy or being a nag

4. No matter how flattering someone might seem at the beginning, try to look beyond, “All that glitters is not gold”

5. Pay close attention to the closest people to you, they are the ones that could hurt you the most

6. If you care about someone show it … words sometimes aren’t enough

7. Conversations are so much sexier than chats, they bring up the core of the person in front of you, if you truly want to get closer to someone, have an actual talk, instead of a set of emojis and stickers

8. If you’re not trying, you’re not going anywhere, you should keep on trying

9. Know where you stand, where you’re heading, and what you need to get there

10. Beware of what you say, who you say it to, when do you say it, and when you should not say it

11. Lastly, some people are just not worth having in your life, not even worth mentioning, just let the trash out

This year, I’m not waiting for anyone to read my talk, I’m not writing any love letters, I’m just “Spring Cleaning my life”

This year my utmost wish is to keep on writing and inspiring your lives like I’ve always done.

It’s as simple as that. And after how you touched me concerning how my Talks affected your lives, I have a birthday promise to do with you.

From now on I’ll be writing more regular talks, I hope I could have a daily talk, to share with you, from now on i’ll be there for you whenever you need me … and from now on my Talks will never stop , just follow me

Thank you so much dearest Deegatalk-ers for the amount of support and care you showed me even when I stopped writing any talks.

I love you endlessly,

Deega

افهموا بقى(١): يا اهل مصر

من ساعة مابتديت اكتب كلامي بالعربي او الإنجليزي

و مشكلتي الأصلية ف الأهل

مش ف الشباب

الشباب اللي كبر على ان الغلط غلط والصح صح

والنقاش عيب و مقاوحة

والتفكير…خروج عن الأدب

و كل ماينفعش بيجي وراها

“الناس هتقول ايه”

اهو انتوا اهتميتوا بالناس اكتر ماهتميتو بولادكو

افهموا بقى

الشدة من غير مبرر هتوصل لمشاكل انتوا مش قدها

والتقفيل بزيادة…بيجي بطرق تاني للهروب من التقفيل ده

 و عدم التوعية بيجي ب مفاهيم غلط و تصرفات غلط اكبر

عشان انتوا قررتوا ماتتكلموش فيها

افهموا بقى

سنة الحياة بتقول ان البنت والولد لازم يتعاملو مع بعض

مش بس لما يجي العريس

وبتقول انهم اتنين بيكملوا بعض

ماينفعش الفصل مابينهم

الفصل، هيولد رغبة في المعرفة اكبر

الفصل هيولد مفايهم غلط هيدورا عليها عند صحابهم او اونلاين

والإختلاط موجود فالشارع، فالدرس و فالشغل

يعني مش فارقة من الآخر

افهموا بقى

ربوهم عالقيم

“عرفوهم ايه اللي ممكن يحصل و امتى يعرفوا انهم دخلو مرحلة “الغلط

عشان كل ممنوع مرغوب

افهموا بقى

المراقبة بزيادة هتولد طرق جديدة للكدب

لأن المراقبة سجن..مش حل تطمنوا بيه عليهم

و سهل عليهم يحسسوك انك عارف و شايف كل حاجة و هم بيعملو كل حاجة فالخفا

افهموا بقى

ماتطلعوش جيل كداب عشان ياخد اللي هو عايزه من الدنيا

افهموا بقى

الناس هتتكلم هتتكلم

ف الصح هيتكلموا

و ف الغلط هيتكلموا

و هيلاقو اي سبب ينهشوا في لحم اللي قدامهم

و يبرروا اللي علي مزاجهم

افهموا بقى

قبل ماتربوا عالصح والغلط

ربوا عالمبادئ اللي مبنية على الثقة

يعني ماتصحبيهاش عشان تفتني لأبوها على كل حاجة

هتخسريها للأبد

ماتقوللهاش احكيلي احنا صحاب

و تضربيها او تجرسيلها لما تحكيلك

كدة تبقى خاينة

خاينة للأمانة والثقة بينك و بين بنتك/ ابنك

ربيها انها ماتحكمش على حد

وافهمي جيلها بيفكر ازاي بدل ما انتي اللي بتحكمي عليها من وجهة نظر تربيتك انت

في وقت كله بيسابق الزمن والدنيا بتاعة زمان مش هي بتاعة دلوقتي

افهموا بقى

الضرب مش حل

الشتيمة مش حل

كلها حاجات هتطلع

ناس مذبذبة و مشوهة نفسياً

افهموا بقى

العفة والشرف مش معناهم الطرحة اللي على راسها

…ولا هي بنت ولا

 العفة اساسها من جوة اوي…من القلب و العقل

ده اللي اهم من كل ده

افهموا بقى

تربيتك ليها اهم من مراقبة الفيسبوك والسوشيال ميديا

تربيتك ليها اهم من هي بنتك بتكلم ولاد ولا لأ

تربيتك ليها اهم من انها طول النهار والليل فالشوارع

تربيتك ليها يعني هي اللي بتقول عالغلط لأ عشان عندها يقين بده

و بتعرف تفرق بين الصح…والغلط

تربيتك ليها معناه انها بتعرف تفكر لنفسها

افهموا بقى

ماتمسكوش ف تفاهات

امسكوا اللجام اللي بيحرك الحصان بدل ماتضربوه عشان ماشي غلط

قالوا زمان ان الأم مدرسة

 طب المدرسة دي هتربي ازاي لو هي اساستها رخوة و مبنية عال: كدب، الخداع، عدم الثقة، و عدم الوعي، و الضعف

هتقع ف ثانية مع اي لفحة هوا

وكدة ولا كدة…الناس هتتكلم هتتكلم

فوتكم بعافية

Rainbow

Holla! It’s time for my weekly talk. Did you get the chance to read last week’s talk? It was a bit dark I know, but real, If you used to do that or had a friend to used to harm himself with blades or are sticked to a relationship till they become so miserable, you’ll relate . Anyways, tonight’s talk is much, much lighter. We’re talking about rainbows and unicorns and cupcakes … Yaay!

*If you missed last week’s talk check it out: http://goo.gl/8cmvTE

No kidding…but tonights topic does include rainbows. I remember in 2010 when I first went to London in summer and there was like this huge parade all colourful with weird people wearing weird costumes and feathers and music, then I discovered it’s the Gay parade of the year….Wow, what? Gay Parade

It was when I’ve discovered for the very first time Rainbow colors represents LGBT.

When I wanted to mention homosexuality in one of my episodes my dad went like, “No No No, you’re not discussing that…not over my dead body”, why dad I mean it’s trending…but he just couldn’t get it.

And last week when suddenly my timeline turned into rainbow colours everywhere, I’ve decided to open up the topic while having Iftar with my parents

“ايه رأيكو ف ال

Rainbows

اللي قالبه فيسبوك؟

اصل انا كنت هكتب على فيسبوك : اؤيد زواج المثليين”

Suddenly my mum stared at me, and was like it’s 7aram how come you approve. I mean mom is personal freedom, I’m not talking about whether it’s 7alal or not, I’m just saying everyone has the right to choose who he’s attracted to, while at the end let’s leave it up to them to decide.

After lots of backs and forths and never ending questions, I went like, “Ok you know what? I’m not fully aware of the topic and I still need to research more about it”

At another Sohoor the topic comes up and a friend asks me, “Ok would you approve if your child becomes gay?” Huh? Why not…I mean…if there is something I could do to predict at a early stage and prevent it i’ll do it. “But you can’t predict?” She said

Shit…everytime this topic comes up people keep on asking me questions that need lots of thinking. I just thought of it as freedom of expression, everyone has the right to get attracted to whoever, it’s something very personal, like talking about someone’s beliefs. But at the end of the day, I haven’t gone deep into the topic yet.

Rainbows, rainbows everywhere. I’m not here to talk about rainbows, I just believe there is something uncomfortable with two moms having a child or two dads having a child. I believe there is something completely wrong with tweens and teens going out in public and saying “Gay and Proud. Lesbian and Proud” . The word and proud itself brings up so many questions

1. Omk/ Abouk 3aref 3ala “Proud”*

2. Do you even know what this puts you through?

3.Are you actually gay/ lesbian or are you “Proud” just to be the talk of school?

And question to many people on fb, did you just change your profile picture to be like so cool? Well I have many friends who believe in LGBT rights, and I would even find many around me who are actually “Rainbow”, while others are approving of it  or practicing just to appear liberal & cool

Yaay we’re liberal we approve of anything out of the norm, against all societies barriers. We approve without even getting deeper into the topic. We approve without thinking twice.

If you approve of Rainbows and believe in them its a belief/ principle of your own, and no one has the right to judge or attack it, but if you aren’t you might as well dig deeper into that topic.

What about you? Do you believe in rainbows?

*Omek 3arfa it’s part of a campaign that appeared on Instagram & Twitter
http://www.cairoscene.com/LifeStyle/Omek-3arfa-Instagram-Egyptian-memes

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